WISDOM

What is Lust? When someone looks very good and you want to see them time and again then that is the birth of lust – You have then climb first stair of lust, then your heart will desire to touch that – then it’s second stair, then you will start approaching them i.e. going toward that direction – then it’s third stair, and in case you touch them you have climbed on fourth stair. It keeps you away from Allah and closer to Satan and also leads you towards humiliation. It ruins your health, wisdom and family bond. Note: Lust is human error and if you are influenced by it you must clean yourself with your better half. If something doesn’t belong to you then approaching it is wrong. “YOU SHALL NOT COVET” Covet: desire of something that doesn’t belongs to you.

Whatever emotion is generated in family by anyone is felt by every member of the family. So, our duty is to always create positive environment. If someone creates negative environment, then it becomes mandatory that you must create positive environment.

The first question is why we get angry. The answer is when we dislike something, some action or behavior of someone. And when we don’t know how to react beautifully upon our dislikes. So, if a person is angry that means he was not previously angry, but something affected him. That also means if we undo our word/action and if it is not possible then at least assure them from next time, we will not repeat this then the angry person again may come to their pervious state of mind/nature/condition. When you are approaching any angry person then first fill yourself with kindness and start with a comfortable and peaceful gesture. Behave as if you know them for long time. Shake hand, greet them, ask or try to know what is causing anger, All good Sir? You look like sad on something. Make sure you don’t increase their and your problem but ease them and yourself.

You may be sad because of any person or situation – but even then, you have to be happy and spread happiness willingly or unwillingly. Yes – fake it until you make it. Keep some extra energy stock for it. Note : Being sad is of no use and it creates negative aura. 

Nothing in this physical world is your, it is just that you receive something in exchange of something such as your time, word, action or behaviour. You create your destiny based on your action and reaction. In other word “Your action and reaction create your destiny.”

Sometimes with whatever knowledge we have we all the time treat other as our student. It would be far better if we give love to them, spend amount of time beautifully without any teaching, judgment, complain, blame but just create a good environment. Don’t criticize them for what they are doing or following wrong.

Hitting or beating someone or something is not the right solution to fix it. If you bump the radio to fix that then you are not the good technician. If someone is making you angry or you think they need fixing and you think you are very strong, even then don’t damage them. If you can’t fix their bone, don’t break it either. Learn and try to become a good technician. Fight with their anger not with the man. Same formula applies for: Mental Damage Emotional Damage Spiritual Damage

In our life we also come across people who dislikes us, get angry at us. if we come across such people, do not hate of disklike them. Actually, I think anger, what should be fixed. Most of the time error comes because of operator not because of computer. If you become good operator and know how to achieve our purpose from the computer, then no or least error comes. Please don’t bump the radio to fix it else you may miss the lovely songs. With not bumping the radio I mean not damaging it. With damaging I mean something radio doesn’t like. Fight with the anger, not with Angry Man. And to fight with anger – Attach are defense is love. 

A child is not able to take care of themself, but Parent teach them to take care of them. Gradually they learn how to take care of themself. When he is good enough and has all the skill to take care of themself then life give them responsibility to take care of other such as his wife and then also his children and then also his parent and other so on. we are responsible for:  - self * - partner *  - children * - parent * - relatives - neighbors - society Just make sure that you take as much responsibility as much possible or as much you are capable. Some responsibilities are mandatory and some are optional. Don't become too good that you don't take care of yourself and only take care of other and vice versa.

Allah has given freedom of choice to everyone. If someone likes something such as make-up, dance or eating unhealthy food, you don't have to show disinterest in them or hate them or dislike them. It is just that you have chosen something different for yourself and they have chosen something else/different. YOU HAVE TO BE GOOD TO EVERYONE, IRRESPECTIVE OF THEIR FREEDOM OF CHOICE.

Haram desire gives pain to other directly or indirectly: such as "if your partner loves you and you still desire for other", " you eat meat",  "you desire to get benefit from other by making their loss" are few examples of Haram Desire. Halal desires are those that makes you happy without stealing happiness from other i.e. without causing sorrow directly or indirectly to other.  Note: If you win a competition with your caliber and other get sad if they lose. In this case your winning has not caused sorrow but their loosing.  

In our life journey knowingly or unknowingly sometimes we do mistakes, mistakes that become reason of somebody’s pain. Sometime your philosophy of life is different and other’s is different. And you impose your philosophy of life on your companion that makes them sad. You imposed your rules because you were ruling, dominating, you were thinking you are right and they are wrong. Based on your experience – you learned what is wrong and what is right for you. And if life makes you ruler/guardian – you impose your do’s and don’ts in your rule book on self and others. But the question is what is right/suitable to you, is the same right/suitable to other as well? Do you know? Are you sure? Also, due to committing some sin knowingly or unknowingly – Allah, his angels and his creations start disliking us and if our sin is severe then they start hating us and leave us behind. And once they have left us, we realize their importance in our life. Without them we feel empty from inside. You see...

There were two friends - Ab and Tab. Ab started a conversation that – I am going to buy a farmland and will plant variety of plants in them. Tab said: Oh really! And continued happily that I am going to buy few cows and will sale milk to people. And I am very happy that you have a farm land – My cow will go there and eat grass from there. Ab replied: Oh no! if your cow comes there, they will start eating my plants too and make my farm land dirty with their poo. And if I see them eating my plants, I will start beating your cows. Tab got angry and said: How dare you beating my cow. If you will beat my cow I will break your bone. Ab then got angry and started fighting with tab. They both fought and made each other red and black.

There was a king and he had 3 sons. One day king told his sons that I am giving you 100 rupees and 100 days. He didn't tell them what to do but just said: Take this100 rupees and go in my kingdom anywhere you like and spend 100 days as you like.  First Son was intelligent and he used his brain and told himself if I spend 1 rupee each day then i can spend my 100 days in a good way. He lived, travelled, enjoyed variety of foods, made friends and had fun with them. And after spending his 100 rupees and 100 days smartly he returned back home. Second Son had many desired who spent his 100 rupees within 50 days and his desired increased by time. After 50 days he started cheating people, stealing money from people, lying to people and even hurting many people. And after completing his 100 days he also returned back home. Third Son noticed how their both brothers spent their 100 rupees and 100 days. He was also willing to spend his time and money like his first brother beautifully. But he ...

Avoid/ignore speaking and listening talk that is of no use.. .. Don't be a wrongdoer. .. Don't add stress in others life but relieve it. .. Don't waste your life in ... Don't waste your time and energy in: Distractions (which is not part of your goal) Greediness Backbiting Show Off Unwanted advice and correction Being judgmental Anger (Just forgive and forget so that you can release burden on self and other) Human Error (Kaam, Krodh, Moh, Lobh and Ahankar). Don't advise or suggest unless asked. .. Don't be driven by anyone or ur senses/nafs unless you approve it Don't talk 2 ur head. Just listen/learn/ignore. .. Don't let anyone or anything panic you. .. Don't let anyone trick leaking your energy.. .. Don't be a trouble maker but a resolver. .. Don't be sad/jealous/arrogant/boastful it gives negative vibes Don't act/react differently or get distracted. .. Don't say that you know everything. .. Don't argu...

Be Pure Be Pure Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. (Wamimma rajaqnahum un fiqoon) You don't have to be copy cat but you should be real you, better you and the best of you. You doesn't mean your nafs but you the self. Learn right, think right, speak right and act right. Don't just read and write but also implement and keep trying until it result right. Be Helpful and Merciful Help people in need, ease their burden and bring happiness in their life. Be the reason of someone's smile/happiness. .. Be Kind, down to earth & yet strong enough You have to be good, kind and nice to person even if they are humiliating you, getting angry at you, making fun of you. If you get affected and fight back it doesn't prove you right or strong but wrong and weak. Better you ignore it, not waste your energy in it. But if you do have to face and respond, then just try to turn their anger into smile, hatred into love. Most of people are good from inside, it is ...

2:153 – O believers! Seek comfort in patience and prayer. Allah is truly with those who are patient. 2:155 – We will certainly test you with a touch of fear and famine and loss of property, life, and crops. Give good news to those who patiently endure— [Allah will test people with different types of hardships: some with fear of those who are against them; hunger because of lack of food; lack of money because of losing it or difficulty gaining it; loss of lives due to death from diseases and tragedies that kill people, or being martyred for the sake of Allah; and a lack of resources from the earth. Give good news, O Prophet, to those who are patient in the face of these hardships, of what will make them happy in this world and in the Afterlife.] 2:168 – O humanity! Eat from what is lawful and good on the earth and do not follow Satan’s footsteps. He is truly your sworn enemy. [O people, eat from the vegetables and fruits of the earth which are lawful and good, and not harmful. Do not fo...

Prophet Muhammad : 1) Kindness is a mark of faith and whoever has no kindness has no faith. 2) None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brothers what he wishes for himself. 3) The ink of scholar is more sacred than the blood of the Martyr. 4) Four thing support the world: i) the learning of the wise. ii) the justice of the great. iii) the prayer of the good. iv) the valor of the brave. 5) To overcome evil with good is good, to resist evil with evil is evil. 6) Speak good or remain silent. 7) Those who are patient in adversity and forgives wrongs are the doer of excellence. 8) The most perfect man in his faith among the believers is the one whose behaviour is most excellence and the best of you are those who are best to their wives. 9) The strongest among you are those who controls his anger. 10) Happy is the man who avoids hardships but how fine is the man who is afflicted and shows endurance. 11) The best among you are the one who doesn't harm others with his tongue and...

पोथि पढ़-पढ़ जग मुआ, पंडित भया न कोए ढाई आखर प्रेम के, पढ़ा सो पंडित होए कबीर कहते हैं कि किताबें पढ़ कर दुनिया में कोई भी ज्ञानी नहीं बना है. बल्कि जो प्रेम को जान गया है वही दुनिया का सबसे बड़ा ज्ञानी है.